online Relationship & couples Counseling

Gottman Couples Counseling & Coaching

Helping you and your partner build appreciation, healthy communication, and deeper connection through solutions-focused coaching and counseling.

Are you ready to build healthier relationship patterns?

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I work with couples or individual partners who truly desire to improve their relationship connection and satisfaction. Couples work with me is solutions-focused and great for those who wish to enhance their relationship.

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Restore a Sense of Friendship & Harmony

Learn to apply helpful perspectives, practices, and rituals from the Gottman Method.

Improve connection

improve conflict resolution

enhance perspectives, understanding, and ways of relating

increase intimacy and affection

create healthy dynamics to establish emotional safety and openness

Gottman Focused Couples Work

Couples Counseling Process: How it Works

Assessment: Begin by completing 3 assessment sessions with a comprehensive Gottman report

Get a deep understanding of your current relationship. Identify strengths and areas of growth. Here’s what to expect:

Session 1: a comprehensive relationship background assessment (90 minutes)
Session 2: a two-part session consisting of two individual sessions (30-40 minutes each)
Session 3: Assessment results overview and goal setting with you and your partner
Sessions 4+: The work begins

Insights from Gottman Research About Relationships

Unsolvable Problems

69% of problems couples experience in a relationship are perpetual, meaning they will never be resolved due to differences.

Successful Couples

Couples who successfully remain together have 5 positive interactions for every negative interaction during conflict.

4 Horseman

Those who break-up or remain together, but experience dysfunction engage in the 4 Horseman:
1. Stonewalling
2. Contempt
3. Criticism
4. Defensiveness

Quick to Repair

The most successful couples are those who are quick to repair following a fight.

Relationship Concerns

As part of cultivating a healthy relationship, I help couples from an affirming perspective who are impacted by the following concerns:

Anxiety or OCD is impacting your relationship.

Healing from past abusive relationships.

ADHD or Autism can have profound impacts on relationships. Let’s explore ways to work with how this impacts you and your relationships.

Distressing, unwanted thoughts or images with urges to do things to avoid distress, get rid of unwanted images/thoughts, or to prevent bad things from happening. Chronic doubt and need for reassurance.

Always setting the bar higher and higher, discounting your accomplishments, procrastination, abandoning projects, fear of failure, and avoiding promotions or opportunities.

Dismissing your boundaries out of fear of letting others down, trying to do it all and be it all for everyone all the time.

Effective Gottman Therapy

The Gottman method is a research based framework for helping people recover and build lasting relationships. Since 69% of issues in relationships are due to perpetual problems or those that can’t be resolved, Gottman method provides techniques for improving relationship dynamics from the heart. Couples will learn how to build a firm foundation for their relationship, so that challenges can be worked through together as partners. This is known as the Sound Relationship House Theory.

The Sound Relationship House has two weight bearing walls that strengthen the relationship and include:

building love maps
sharing fondness and admiration
turning towards each other instead of away
establishing positive perspective of your partner
conflict management skills
making life dreams come true
creating shared meaning
building trust and commitment

Integrating Gottman method into couples therapy gives you daily practices to apply in your relationship.

Replace what’s not working with something deeper and more meaningful.

Frequently Asked Questions

Get your couples counseling questions answered here. If you have more questions, reach out today.

Overall, my couples work is best suited for those who wish to work through general relationship skill building. My approach is focused on helping you develop skills from the Gottman method.

In the first few sessions, we will talk about your main concerns, history, and goals. There will be some individual sessions to understand each of you better.

You will complete a Gottman relationship assessment that will help use identify areas of growth in the relationship so we can create a plan together. I maintain open and honest communication in our sessions and require you honor this as well.

During a couples counseling session, I will facilitate discussions between you to help you communicate more effectively and understand each other’s perspectives.

Sessions may include exercises and techniques to improve communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen the relationship.

It can be common for one partner to be more reluctant to start therapy than the other, and that’s ok. I will work with you individually on your relationship concerns, equipping you with new insights, education, and ways to relate to your partner that can still improve your relationship experience. When your partner is ready to join, we can bring them into that process.

There is never any way to guarantee outcomes in therapy. However, research supports that the Gottman approach for couples is highly effective.

You will complete a relationship assessment at the start and end of couples counseling that helps us identify the effectiveness of our work together.

You can read more by visiting the links below:

Gottman Website

Examining the Effectiveness of Gottman Couple Therapy on Improving Marital Adjustment and Couples’ Intimacy

That all depends on a number of factors. Everyone is different and while some couples can get a lot through just a few sessions, most couples will work with me for about 12-16 sessions.

Online couples counseling works just like individual online counseling except you and your partner will be in the same room with your laptop. It’s easiest if you sit next to one another and share the same screen. At rare times, it may not be possible for you to be in the same room during sessions, and that’s ok, as long as most of the sessions occur with you together in the same room.

Anyone in a relationship- long term partners, married, dating. Couples counseling helps address issues that come up in any relationship.

Getting started is simple even if it makes you a little nervous (that’s normal). Click the link below to schedule a free consultation.

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